Until childhood is freed from repressive constructs of innocence and ignorance and until the family as an institution is neither romanticized nor sentimentalized, society will seek, require, and even demand the services of the pervert. –Eric Rofes, Status Quo or Status Queer? A Radical Rethinking of Sexuality and Schooling, 2005
We queer femmes choose rather to be of service to ourselves, to each other, and, in the end and in the interconnected way of love, of service to all living beings. We are aware of the status quo’s nefarious co-optive power over, and we choose to put our energy into our own, unique, queer femme ways of disrupting, rethinking, building up and tearing down. Starting with our own deep love of our queer bodies, our full selves, our beautiful brains, our sexual magic and all of our queer doings, we spread the love in surprising, bountiful and polyphonic fashion. For those younger than us, we choose to be of service by modeling queer adult lives that are nuanced and interesting, filled with mistakes, sublime moments, robust humor, and lots of sex. For our peers, we choose to be of service by listening, laughing with, taking charge and letting go, allowing ourselves to be mystified, enlightened, uncomfortable and always in solidarity. For our elders, we stay present, respectful, delighted as well as repeating all of the above.
We are of service, yes! oh yes. We are of service and in service to better, sweeter, longer, this community, this lovely, this sweet world, in service so queerly, so healing, so dear.
Every Monday, I offer a Meditation for Queer Femmes, in the spirit of my maternal grandmother, Mimi, who was fabulous, and from whom I inherited her Meditations for Women.
The Total Femme 