Meditations for Queer Femmes – Bless Me, Ancestors

Thank you to my sweet femme sister, Miel, for allowing me to share her incredibly moving prayer with you today. May it connect you to those who came before us and inspire you to imagine a future world in which we will be the beloved and powerful ancestors.

Bless Me, Ancestors

a prayer by Miel Rose

May I live each day

Honoring my connection to you who came before

However complicated

Knowing my inheritance is rich

In both wisdom and wounding

Choosing which legacy continues with me

And which is put to bed

Buried in the healing Earth

May my heart beat in time with those Ancestors

Reaching back

Who lived in a deeply balanced relationship with all things

Those who recognized and honored kinship

Past human relations

Those who lived attuned to the cycles

Through abundance to scarcity

Birth to grown to death to rebirth

Waxing to waning

Let my heartbeat recalibrate to yours

And may this change ripple outward

Creating exponential shifts within and without

I claim you and am claimed by you

And may my steps through this life

Be in alignment with your sacred legacy

Miel Rose offers her gorgeous wares, femme-made and filled with femme love and healing, including hand embroidery, sacred votive candles, altar cloths and skin medicine, at her etsy store, flame and honeycomb.

Every Monday, I offer a Meditation for Queer Femmes, in the spirit of my maternal grandmother, Mimi, who was fabulous, and from whom I inherited her Meditations for Women.

At the Total Femme, my intention is to post three times a week: Meditations for Queer Femmes on Monday, Pingy-Dingy Wednesday on Wednesday and Femme Friday on Friday. Rather than play catch-up in a stressful fashion on those weeks when life prevents posting, I have decided to just move gaily forward: if I miss a Monday, the next post will be on Wednesday, and so on. Thank you, little bottle of antibiotics for inspiring me in this! (“…if it’s almost time for the next dose, skip the missed dose and continue your regular dosing schedule. Don’t take a double dose to make up for a missed one.”)



Femme Friday — Bevin Branlandingham, Queer Fat Femme, The Queer Fat Femme Guide to Life

As Femmecee and Femme Shark at, Bevin uses her blog to “chronicle the relentless pursuit of my joy.” She continues, “I believe all bodies are good bodies and work to make the world safe for people to love themselves.” She offers workshops such as “Drag for all Genders”, “Nobody Ever Died of Awkward” and will work with you or your organization to customize something just for you. She speaks on topics from LGBT family planning to real estate law; performs and teaches burlesque; teaches a dance aerobics class called Fat Kid Dance party (For All Sizes to Heal From Body Oppression); and has her own line of femme teas. Is there nothing this amazing femme can’t do??

Deep gratitude to Bevin for her love of all bodies, her sense of fun and community, and her amazing and generous femme outreach!

Get ready to dance at Fat Kid Dance Party!!!

(Don’t miss the part where she talks about not internalizing the “too muches”, including “too feminine”!)

Every Friday, I showcase a queer femme goddess.  I want to feature you! Email me at and let me feature your beautiful, unique, femme story!