Femme Friday – Sofia Rose Smith, Queer Femme of Color Magic-Maker

I first learned about Sofia from reading her beautiful article, which might actually be a poem or incantation or litany, “Being a Queer Femme of Color Magic-Maker” at Huffpost, and then found out more about her life and work at her website.

Deep gratitude to you, Sofia Rose Smith for your kindness, wisdom, for loving all of us not-fitting-inners, for not allowing the world to simplify you, and for reaching out to share your healing and your magic. Your meditation, “Mothering Yourself” came to me at exactly the right time and my tears, my heart, my toddler self and my ancestor self thank you, thank you, thank you!



I’m a typewriter whompin’, card catalogue lovin’ white girl from back in the day, and I yearn for a time before the covers of trade paperbacks were all squidgy, so you can imagine that I don’t actually understand what a pingback is. I do know that it can in some way be part of spreading the love, and since that’s what I’m all about at The Total Femme… every Wednesday, I pay homage to the laughter, love, and inspiration to be had elsewhere online.

At the Total Femme, my intention is to post three times a week: Meditations for Queer Femmes on Monday, Pingy-Dingy Wednesday on Wednesday and Femme Friday on Friday. Rather than play catch-up in a stressful fashion on those weeks when life prevents posting, I have decided to just move gaily forward: if I miss a Monday, the next post will be on Wednesday, and so on. Thank you, little bottle of antibiotics for inspiring me in this! (“…if it’s almost time for the next dose, skip the missed dose and continue your regular dosing schedule. Don’t take a double dose to make up for a missed one.”)