Pingy-Dingy Wednesday – Nonprofit AF

Vu over at Nonprofit AF always has relevant and thoughtful things to say, and this post in particular has my admiration and respect. I really appreciate how Vu uses his own past behavior to talk about what not to do, modeling growth and action. I never realized how much alcohol is a part of just about everything until, like Vu, I became aware of the addiction and alcoholism of a family member. When an event is centered around drinking, it is at the very least, disconcerting for me, and often extremely painful.

Dearest Vu, you get one pingy-dingy! Thank you for bringing up this extremely important topic, and for getting the ball rolling for continued conversation and community support.

I’m a typewriter whompin’, card catalogue lovin’ white girl from back in the day, and I yearn for a time before the covers of trade paperbacks were all squidgy, so you can imagine that I don’t actually understand what a pingback is. I do know that it can in some way be part of spreading the love, and since that’s what I’m all about at The Total Femme… every Wednesday, I pay homage to the laughter and inspiration to be had elsewhere online. If you have a favorite, let me know and I’ll post it! Write to me at

At the Total Femme, my intention is to post three or four times a week: Meditations for Queer Femmes on Monday, Pingy-Dingy Wednesday on Wednesday, Femme Friday on Friday, and (new for spring 22!) the occasional Sometimes On A. Rather than play catch-up in a stressful fashion on those weeks when life prevents posting, I have decided to just move gaily forward: if I miss a Monday, the next post will be on Wednesday, and so on. Thank you, little bottle of antibiotics for inspiring me in this! (“…if it’s almost time for the next dose, skip the missed dose and continue your regular dosing schedule. Don’t take a double dose to make up for a missed one.”) And…as I go through life life life, I will post as I am able, Mabel.