The Total Femme

Monday I had to take my increasingly mobility-challenged 90-year old mother to the doctor for a follow-up. It was hard in so many ways. Really hard getting her comfortable in the car. Really hard going from waiting room to waiting room. “Just have a seat!” we’d be told, and she would creakily, creakily, slowly, slowly, get seated, only to be told, “Doctor will see you now!” All told, it took four hours and several new gray hairs on both our parts to get through the whole thing. The good news is she’s doing just fine and is eligible for home visits from now on. The more difficult news is how knackered and shaken we both were at the end of it all.

A very dear young man, hospital staff, helped us out in the parking lot where construction had closed down the entrance I’d hoped to use and we had to walk a longer distance than I’d planned. When I thanked him and told him it had just been a hard day, he said, “How about a hug?”

A hug? From a sweet young stranger in the parking lot? When I was completely tapped and on the verge of tears? HELL YES!!!

Turns out Chris is a big foodie, does extensive research on restaurants all over the world, and will set you up with just the right spot for dining. I am currently waiting to get the right information on his service for you, given that an internet search turned up only this incredibly dear piece of history from a homeschooler out west. Stay tuned, though!

Thank you, Chris, for your warm and generous hug, for treating my mom with such sweetness, for your love of food, and your enthusiasm about matching folks up with restaurants that will delight them!

I’m a typewriter whompin’, card catalogue lovin’ white girl from back in the day, and I yearn for a time before the covers of trade paperbacks were all squidgy, so you can imagine that I don’t actually understand what a pingback is. I do know that it can in some way be part of spreading the love, and since that’s what I’m all about at The Total Femme… every Wednesday, I pay homage to the laughter and inspiration to be had elsewhere online.

At the Total Femme, my intention is to post three times a week: Meditations for Queer Femmes on Monday, Pingy-Dingy Wednesday on Wednesday, and Femme Friday on Friday. Rather than play catch-up in a stressful fashion on those weeks when life prevents posting, I have decided to just move gaily forward: if I miss a Monday, the next post will be on Wednesday, and so on. Thank you, little bottle of antibiotics for inspiring me in this! (“…if it’s almost time for the next dose, skip the missed dose and continue your regular dosing schedule. Don’t take a double dose to make up for a missed one.”) And…as I go through life life life, I will post as I am able, Mabel.