The Total Femme

          

(Oops! Had this ready to go yesterday, but forgot to post it! Oh well, sometimes it’s just Friday on a Saturday! xottf)

Your femme and my femme are different in so many ways.

You for a lot of makeup, perhaps, me for a splash of lippie here and again. You for the delights of a high femme lover, me for my downhome butch hubby. You for the excitement of big city life, me yearning for a quiet country yurt. You for the beauty and healing of weekly services, me for the ocassional spot of meditation and the loud purr of my old cat.

Our politics, our diets, our backgrounds, our fancies, our worries, our jobs and families and senses of humor, all different.

You, I see you.

For the femme dancing to the crosswalk beeps on Mass Ave;

for the femme slurping ramen and looking at her phone;

for the femme ranting on the internet;

for the femme waiting for medical test results and not telling anyone yet;

for the femme on the train, leaving;

for the femme in her car, arriving;

for the femme in rehab and the femme in 12-Step;

for the peppily healthy femme and the femme who’se got a damn lot of dings but keeps on truckin’;

for the middle-aged femme, the baby femme, for the femme ancestors, for the femme elders.

I gather you, all of you, in your femme variety and glory, I gather you here.

Look around at all of us!

We are here, making community, causing trouble, asking questions, dealing with fallout, laughing, dancing, enduring, getting on with things, fucking things up.

My sisters, my ardent, strong, spirited, rising, blooming, starsparkle beloved queer femme sisters, do you see one another, do you see us?

How we shine!

Every Friday, I showcase a queer femme goddess. I want to feature you or someone you love! Write to me at thetotalfemme@gmail.com and let me shine a spotlight on your beautiful, unique, femme story! If you’ve written a femme story or poem or song, oh, please let me post it!

At the Total Femme, my intention is to post three times a week: Meditations for Queer Femmes on Monday, Pingy-Dingy Wednesday on Wednesday, and Femme Friday on Friday. Rather than play catch-up in a stressful fashion on those weeks when life prevents posting, I have decided to just move gaily forward: if I miss a Monday, the next post will be on Wednesday, and so on. Thank you, little bottle of antibiotics for inspiring me in this! (“…if it’s almost time for the next dose, skip the missed dose and continue your regular dosing schedule. Don’t take a double dose to make up for a missed one.”) And…as I go life life life, I will post as I am able, Mabel.